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Planner · Anniversaries & low-energy days

Map the hard dates and plan the low-energy days

Add an anniversary, a birthday, a period of care or a day you already know will be difficult. This planner works out the next occurrence, the weekday, how many years it will be and the firsts still coming, then helps you plan a day that asks as little of you as possible. It runs in this tab, and nothing is uploaded.

Private kept in this browser12 months of marked datesCare card print, fold and carryNo account nothing uploaded

1 · Add a date

new entry
A person, a pet, or a few words about the event. Only this browser sees it.
A hard day is a date you already know will be difficult, with no loss attached to it.
The date of death, or the date of the event.
For a period of care or an illness.
Used for the age they would have reached.
Anything you want to remember about the day. Hidden along with the name when entries are hidden.

2 · Your entries

no entries yet

Entries are kept in this browser only, under one key (apprun:grief-anniversary-planner), so they are still here next time you open the page. Nothing is uploaded, there is no account, and clearing your browser data clears this too.

3 · The next occurrence

4 · Low-energy day plan

nothing selected
2 of 5
One is almost nothing. Five is an ordinary day. The plan should cost less than the budget.
One per line. Written in advance, this is the easiest thing to hold to on the day.
One person at work, one person who will check in.
Ask for the days either side, not only the date.

Changes are saved with the entry as you type.

5 · The next 12 months

Hard days ahead — the five nearest
The five marked dates closest to today
DateWeekdayWhatDays away
Marked dates per month
Every marked date, month by month

Plain text only: there is no calendar subscription and no network request. The Markdown file is meant to be pasted into a note, the CSV into a spreadsheet.

6 · Care card

print, fold and carry

Print at 100% scale on A4 or Letter. Each card prints as one card-sized block on its own page, so it can be cut out and folded along the dashed line.

Reading the year

what the figures mean
Days awayCounted from today to the date, so an anniversary today reads “today”, not “0 days left”.
Years it will beCounted from the date it began. A birthday also shows the age they would have reached.
Weekend and holiday flagsA Saturday or Sunday is marked “weekend”. “Near” means within three days of a widely observed date from the small list in this page, not your country's full calendar.
FirstsWorked out only from the dates you entered. If a date is missing, that first is missing too.

This is a planning aid. It is not medical or therapeutic advice, and it is not a substitute for support from a doctor, a counsellor or a bereavement service. If a day becomes too much, call one of the people on your card, or your local bereavement service.

How to use Grief Anniversary Planner

Everything below runs in this tab. Nothing is uploaded, and no account is needed.

Step by step

  1. Add an entry in 1 · Add a date: a name or label, the date it began, and a recurrence. A birthday, a would-have-been date and the date a period of care ended are all optional.
  2. Choose the recurrence (every year, every month, every week, one-off or every N years) and add any date you already know is coming, such as a first trip or a wedding.
  3. Read 3 · The next occurrence for the date, the weekday, the days away, how many years it will be and the firsts still ahead.
  4. Open 4 · Low-energy day plan and press Fill a gentle default plan. Edit anything that does not fit: the energy budget, what you will not do, three meal options, who to tell, time off, transport and an exit plan.
  5. Print the care card for the day itself, or export the next twelve months as Markdown or CSV. Entries stay in this browser under one key, so they are here next time.

Details and limits

Why the days before can be the hardest

The run-up is often worse than the date itself. The body starts preparing before the mind names what is happening, sleep gets thinner, and there is no date on a calendar to point at, so the feeling has nowhere to go. Planning the two or three days before, not just the day, is the point of the low-energy plan. If the week before is consistently worse than the day, tell your doctor, a counsellor or a bereavement service — that pattern is common and it is treatable.

Yearly recurrence skips nothing

A date marked every year moves through the week: an anniversary on a Monday one year is on a Thursday three years later, and back to a workday pattern the year after. Leap years are handled too — 29 February is marked on 28 February in common years, because February has no 29th that year. The weekday is always recalculated from the calendar, never carried over from last year.

The firsts list comes only from your dates

Nothing here knows what you have already been through. The firsts are worked out from the dates you enter: the first anniversary after the date it began, the first birthday without them, the first Christmas, the first Mother's Day and Father's Day, and any date you added yourself such as a first trip. If a date is missing, that first is missing — and if a first has already passed, it is not listed.

Where your entries live

Entries are saved in this browser only, under one key (apprun:grief-anniversary-planner), so they are still here when you come back. Nothing is uploaded, there is no account, and there is no sync between devices. Clearing your browser data clears this too, and the Clear all entries button removes everything in one go. This is a planning aid, not a substitute for support from a doctor, a counsellor or a bereavement service.

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Frequently asked questions

Why is the week before an anniversary often harder than the day itself?

Because the body starts preparing before the mind names it. Sleep gets lighter, appetite changes, and there is no date on a calendar to point at, so the feeling has nowhere to go. Many people find the two or three days before harder than the anniversary. Planning for those days — less to do, fewer people, an exit — is the point of the low-energy plan.

How do I plan a low-energy day?

Give yourself an energy budget of one to five and spend it on one thing, not five. Write a list of what you will not do, pick three meals in advance so nothing has to be decided, tell one person at work and one friend, and decide where you will go and who to call if it gets too much. The gentle default fills all of this in.

What should I do about a birthday?

A birthday is often harder than the anniversary, because it is a day that used to be celebrated and now is not. Enter it as a would-have-been date and the planner will show the next one, the weekday and the age they would have reached. Decide in advance whether you want it marked loudly or quietly. Nothing at all is a valid answer.

How do I ask for time off work?

Ask for the days either side, not just the date. The plan has a note field for the date range, and the Fill the range button writes out the day before, the date and the day after, ready to paste into a message. You do not have to explain why: “I need a personal day on the fourteenth, and the Friday either side if possible” is enough.

What should I write on a care card?

Four short lines you can read at a glance: the energy budget, one thing you are not doing today, the easiest meal, and where to go if it gets too much. Add one line for someone to call, with a number you can actually dial. Print it, fold it, and put it in a pocket or a bag — on the day, reading is easier than deciding.

Is anything uploaded?

No. Every date, plan and card is produced in this tab. Entries are written to one key in this browser's own storage (apprun:grief-anniversary-planner) and nothing else, so they survive a reload and a closed tab. There is no server request, no account, no analytics on your entries, and clearing your browser data clears them too.